Are you ready to stop being so tough on yourself?
When I was an adolescent, one of the worst things a girl could be called was conceited. Accepting a compliment, acknowledging an innate skill in a subject matter or sport, agreeing that you looked good in an outfit, overdressing for an occasion, or admitting it was reasonable for a crush to like you was all that it took to be labeled conceited, and once that term was attached to you it was hard to get away from its limitations. For those of us that weren’t rebellious enough to lean in and lay it on thicker, we played it safe by being humble which meant being complimentary when speaking of others and deprecating when speaking about ourselves.
The systems of self-protection we use when we are younger cement into belief systems as we age, which is why reclaiming the Golden Shadow is such an important part of inner growth—especially for women. We tear ourselves down so others don’t see us as someone who thinks too highly of themselves as if it's a bad thing. We’ve abandoned the possibility that we are talented, smart, sexy, or valuable and hold ourselves back from living too boldly.
We value being humble but have you ever looked up its definition?
having or showing a modest or low estimate of one's own importance.
of low social, administrative, or political rank.
lower (someone) in dignity or importance.
I read that and wonder, who’s benefiting from that?
As Marianne Williamson said, “We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine.”
Uncovering our Golden Shadows let's us see how we’ve belittled ourselves and helps us invite powerful aspects back into our experience so we can be who we are meant to be.
Do you hold yourself back from experiences because you think you aren't smart, pretty, strong, or talented enough?
If you were to fully believe that you are all of those things, how would your approach to life shift?
Learn to reclaim wonderful aspects of yourself so that you can get what you want out of your life without holding back because of limiting beliefs you have of yourself. You may do that by checking out the Shadow Alchemy Program that happens twice a year or scheduling a FREE call with me to explore how I can best support you in your on your current path to self-love.
