On being “NEEDY”

Sisters, please stop calling yourself “needy” as if it's a bad thing. I've heard this term used as self-deprecation by so many women lately. You have needs and they matter. Whoever told you differently or called you "needy" as criticism WAS WRONG.

When you withhold your needs, you withhold yourself.

That “needy” behavior you’re afraid of happens because you’ve been ignoring the original need for a really long time AND/OR you’re wasting your time and energy trying to get them met by someone completely incapable of doing so.

Do yourself a favor and learn to identify and acknowledge your needs, so they can be voiced to someone that is capable (and excited!) about meeting them. Those people exist!!

The Shadow has us believing that we are loveable only if we express ourselves in a particular way. When we example behaviors that are not what we deem acceptable we feel shame. Instead of putting ourselves through the inner-abuse that comes with that, let's take a look at the how we came to believe this part of us was so bad in the first place and ask ourselves, "is it true?"