Are you tired of trying to prove yourself?

Of your behaviors, how many are motivated by a need to prove yourself to others—to prove you’re worthy, intelligent, honest, loveable, cool, laid-back, unaffected, tough, courageous etc.

How much time and energy do you spend worrying that people might see you as the opposite of these things?

Author Debbie Ford once said that trying to hide our Shadows (the parts of us we don’t want others to see) is like trying to keep 20 beach balls completely under water at the same time.

Not only is it impossible but at some point, it becomes too exhausting to keep trying so you’ll check out and avoid it or find a way for it to be OK letting them surface. The first option creates emotional isolation and dissatisfaction. The latter may be uncomfortable at first but you’ll come to enjoy the way the colorful balls decorate your pool.