What sets you off?
Shadow Clue #4 from my video series (below) is EMOTIONAL TRIGGERS. Other people's words and actions trigger you if it goes against how you want to be seen/known.
I once had a roommate who told lies. It used to light my ass on 🔥! Our other roommate was never bothered by his lying. Why? Because he wasn’t afraid of his inner liar. He understood its value.
Not me. When I saw the liar show up in someone I judged it with a fierce aggression. I value integrity and I give a lot of energy to making sure people know it, dammit! I hated the idea that someone might think I lie and I hated it when I saw it in someone else. It wasn’t until I was able to understand and accept my inner liar that I stopped being so triggered by it in others.
I learned that my inner liar is a hilarious storyteller that makes my life experiences sound more entertaining to my friends when I retell them with a bit more flare than what really happened. I discovered that my inner liar seeks connection and approval (in a round-about-sort-of-way) and even though my roommate's inner liar expressed itself different than mine, it had the same desire. Once I understood the role of the inner liar, I had more compassion and understanding for my roommate’s. I approached him with the intention to connect and we were finally able to have a conversation where he opened up to me about how disconnected he felt from me and this was all due to my exploration of my triggers. Win-win!
What sets you off?
